"Thank you so much for offering such a wonderful service to working mothers. You're a great coach and I deeply value the time we've spent together and the progress you've helped me make in my life. I wouldn't be this far along in my goals or have this much courage to push forward without your support. I've made more progress with you in the last 2 months than I made in 2 years of therapy."
-Joanne Stewart, Geography/Wildlife Project Manager, Mother of One, Glasgow, MT
"I highly recommend Amber as a life/career coach. In our work together focusing on career transition, she's provided exceptional value in her ability to assess situations quickly and offer concrete tools, processes and plans of action to enable successful growth, change and resilience."
Technical/Business Consultant, Mother of One, San Jose, CA
"Amber has been a constant catalyst for growth for me over the past couple of years. She helped me get more done in less time and achieve
challenging career objectives."
-Carrie Rosenthal, Entrepreneur, Mother of One, New York, NY
"Amber, you helped me gain clarity, try on new perspectives, set realistic goals, and get into action. This has been a huge success for me."
-Donna Chin Klein, Professional Writer, Mother of Two, Ross, CA
Happy New Year! I hope you're able to focus on whatever is most important to you this year.
My year is off to a fun start as Balance Bar® has hired me as their Balance Life Coach/ New Year's Resolutions Guru. Join us for a live Twitter chat on January 9th at 1:30pm est/10:30am pst (#ResolutionChat). Balance Bar® is also hosting an Outlast Your Resolutions Facebook contest from 1/1 to 1/18. The grand prize is an hour long personal phone coaching session with me and a great prize package featuring Balance Bar products and items to help you achieve healthy balance in the coming year. In related news, I'm now on Twitter and Facebook. Feel free to like me on Facebook and follow me on Twitter to receive more regular tips and tricks to achieve success that's balanced.
In the meantime, to get you off on the right foot, check out the first of two articles below on how to outlast your resolutions.
Here's to your fulfillment, success and balance in 2013.
How to Outlast Your Resolutions
Resolutions are as common as champagne on New Year's Eve and, unfortunately, they lose their fizz just as quickly. In fact, nearly 80% of all new-year's resolutions are broken by the end of January each year.
This time of year, I tend to hear from many folks that they want to lose weight, get fit and create more organization. To set yourself up for lasting success, it's important to approach your resolutions from a balanced perspective. Here are some tips that can set you on the path to success:
- Short-Term Focus - Humans, by nature, have a short-term focus and work better with small steps. Many don't consider this when making resolutions. It takes too long to achieve a goal of losing 20 pounds or of fitting into your skinny jeans. It's much more realistic, for example, to commit to replacing one can of soda in the afternoon with a much healthier alternative. A piece of fruit or a handful of baby carrots will help curb your sugar craving and are healthier alternatives. The positive feedback from small, daily successes will create motivation and - eventually - lead to lasting, balanced change.
- Be Patient with Yourself - On average, it takes 21 days to create a new habit. When you first get started, it will take more time and energy to focus on your daily goal. The trick is to notice when you didn't accomplish your daily goal - and to not beat yourself up about it. After about three solid weeks of working on your daily goals, they'll become second nature and part of your daily routine.
- Enlist Your Support Network - Build the support and accountability you'll need to make your resolution a reality. Talk with your partner or folks in your support network about your goals. Saying a resolution out-loud or even via social media creates outside accountability and increases your success rate by 80%. That's why I'm excited to participate in the "Outlast Your New Year's Resolutions" Facebook contest and offer you more tips.
- Gauge Your Progress - Create a simple chart, diagram or collage that will help you to gauge your progress one day at a time. Simply refer to this tool at the beginning and end of each week and month to review how far you've come. You can represent your progress with percentages, different colors or smiley faces. There's no one right way to do it. All that matters is that you create a measurement tool that works for you.
- Create a Theme - If resolutions don't appeal to you but you still want to make some changes in your life this coming year, consider creating a theme for the year. A theme is a word or succinct phrase that describes how you want to show up in the world, the qualities you'll bring forth and the impact you'll make each day, week and month of the year. Examples include "going out on a limb," "feeling good and looking good," or "enjoying the fruits of my labor." You get the idea.
Once you have your resolution or theme for the year, you can make a list of actions that will help support your intention. For example, for the theme of "feeling good and looking good", perhaps it's following-through with all those doctor appointments you've been putting off or committing to start each day with breakfast.
To help anchor your resolution or theme so that it has a longer shelf life and you're reminded of it on a daily and weekly basis, try writing it as the screensaver on your computer; as the wallpaper on your phone; or on the front page of your hard copy calendar. The idea is to have it front and center so that each day you're reminded of your intention for the year. Then, each day, you choose one small, achievable, realistic action step that will help support your theme or resolution.
About Amber Rosenberg
A seasoned professional life coach and mother of two, Amber helps working mothers manage guilt and stress and re-define success on their own terms. Through personal one-on-one coaching, she's empowered thousands of moms across the US, Canada and Europe to achieve success that's balanced. Through corporate coaching, she's helped dozens of employers such as Adobe, Morgan Stanley and Google to create a more supportive work environment for their valued employees.
With 17 years of professional experience, she started her career in public relations, coaching executives at Fortune 500 companies and non-profits. Amber founded her life coaching business in 2004 and has found personal and professional fulfillment empowering others to make positive changes in their lives.
Amber has been interviewed for national and local TV shows, magazines, newspapers and blogs and she wrote a chapter on "How to Manage Your Love/Hate Relationship with Time" for the book Inspiration to Realization.
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