Happy summer and welcome to the first issue of
the Confident Woman e-zine. I'll be responding to
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your health, happiness and success,
|Overwhelmed? Five Steps to Take Back Your Life
Do you spend your energy worrying about everything
you have to do instead of actually doing it? Has
making dinner, picking up the dry cleaning or
responding to e-mails become a monumental effort?
Is your to-do list growing at unmanageable rates?
Lately, I’ve been observing what happens when I find
myself in this undesirable place. I noticed that when
I start to feel overwhelmed, I go to great lengths to
check ‘just one more thing’ off of my to-do list.
While this short burst of frenzied activity allows me
to accomplish one thing, by the time I get to the
second item, I’m totally exhausted.
So, I decided to try an experiment. For the last
week, I tried to give into this stuck feeling; to
surrender to it and to see what happens. When I
slowed down, I noticed that the culprit was often
unrealistic expectations of myself and my time.
When I started to have these unrealistic
expectations of myself, it became easy to lose sight
of why I committed to doing something in the first
place. Once I became disconnected from the
meaning behind my actions, it was easy to lose
motivation. Losing motivation for one thing quickly
snowballed into losing motivation for another thing,
which contributed to an ever-growing to-do list and,
eventually feeling overwhelmed.
Instead of giving into this frenzy, I decided to take
some time to re-connect with what’s important to
me - exercise, meditation, laughter and fun. Now I’m
in the process of figuring out how to incorporate
these into my everyday life.
So, when you’re overwhelmed, instead of trying
to get as much done as quickly as you can, try
slowing down to get re-connected with the meaning
behind your actions. Try a few of these exercises to
help you slow down:
1) As often as possible, stop for a moment and
take several deep, relaxing breaths.
2) Do something that you used to do as a child. Run
through a sprinkler, swing on a swing-set or draw a
3) Go outdoors for as long as it takes get
perspective. Take time to notice the details of
nature – look up at the clouds, smell the grass, snow
or rain and feel the fresh air on your skin.
4) Run up and down your stairs or do some jumping
jacks or push-ups for 10 minutes. Explore how
getting out of your mind and into your body helps
you to feel both calm and energized.
5) Watch a funny movie or read a funny book.
Laughter provides perspective and makes everything
feel more manageable.
Spend a week trying these exercises and then look
What do you notice? What are you learning? What
is possible from here?
Write down what you learned or share it with your
The next time you’re feeling overwhelmed, try letting
go of your expectations and measuring your
accomplishments. Instead, focus on slowing down
and re-connecting with what energizes and feeds
you. When you’re connected with your values and
the guiding principles of your life, you’re connected
to the natural fuel for getting things done.
Amber Rosenberg is the principal of
Pacific Life Coach, a life and business
coaching company that guides entrepreneurs, small
business owners and other professionals to
success on their own terms doing what they love.
She is a contributor to the book 'Inspiration to
Realization', a self-help book for women, a popular
speaker, and a writer for Know
Yourself Magazine. She also has 10 years
marketing and PR
experience for Fortune 500 companies and non-profit
organizations. To sign-up for a COMPLIMENTARY
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I'm contributor to the book 'Inspiration to
Realization: Real Women Reveal Proven Strategies for
Personal, Business, Financial and Spiritual Fulfillment'
that will be available for purchase on my
website on 9/1/06.
called: ‘How to
Manage Your Love/Hate Relationship with Time’.
Other chapters focus on: how to say ‘no’ without
feeling guilty; tools to discover your secret weapon
against stress; how to turn your small business
into a brand-name success and much more.
“The collective wisdom in this book is a critical
resource for women who want to bring joy and
fulfillment into their lives...every day."
-- Ruth King, Author, The Ugly Truth about Small
"Since I started coaching with Amber four months
ago, I've lost 20 pounds and earned a promotion at
work which has boosted my confidence to start
-- J.S., Executive for Fortune 500 Company, San
"As a result of coaching I've decided to open
up my own business. Through working with Amber, I
realized that life is too short to wait to pursue my
-- A.S, Entrepreneur, Palo Alto, CA
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