Happy New Year! With the busyness of the holidays
just behind us and all the change a new year brings,
many people I speak with these days are feeling
overwhelmed. Below is an article that I wrote two
years ago that provides you with a few steps to
manage feeling overwhelmed and take back your life.
For some more helpful tips on staying balanced
during this busy period, check out my most recent
interview on View from the Bay on ABC-TV. Also, Moms Thrive Now Workshops are
right around the corner - in San Francisco on 1/9/08
and Walnut Creek on 1/15/08 - and the Moms in Balance 90-Day Group
Coaching Program will begin in February. Hope to
see you there!
Here's to creating a 2008 where your most precious
dreams come to life.
|Overwhelmed? Five Steps to Take Back Your Life
Do you spend your energy worrying about everything
you have to do instead of actually doing it? Has
making dinner, picking up the dry cleaning or
responding to e-mails become a monumental effort?
Is your to-do list growing at unmanageable rates?
Lately, I've been observing what happens when I find
myself in this undesirable place. I noticed that when
I start to feel overwhelmed, I go to great lengths to
check 'just one more thing' off of my to-do list.
While this short burst of frenzied activity allows me
to accomplish one thing, by the time I get to the
second item, I'm totally exhausted.
So, I decided to try an experiment. For the last
week, I tried to give into this stuck feeling; to
surrender to it and to see what happens. When I
slowed down, I noticed that the culprit was often
unrealistic expectations of myself and my time.
When I started to have these unrealistic
expectations of myself, it became easy to lose sight
of why I committed to doing something in the first
place. Once I became disconnected from the
meaning behind my actions, it was easy to lose
motivation. Losing motivation for one thing quickly
snowballed into losing motivation for another thing,
which contributed to an ever-growing to-do list and,
eventually feeling overwhelmed.
Instead of giving into this frenzy, I decided to take
some time to re-connect with what's important to
me - exercise, meditation, laughter and fun. Now I'm
in the process of figuring out how to incorporate
these into my everyday life.
So, when you're overwhelmed, instead of trying
to get as much done as quickly as you can, try
slowing down to get re-connected with the meaning
behind your actions. Try a few of these exercises to
help you slow down:
1) As often as possible, stop for a moment and
take several deep, relaxing breaths.
2) Do something that you used to do as a child. Run
through a sprinkler, swing on a swing-set or draw a
3) Go outdoors for as long as it takes get
perspective. Take time to notice the details of
nature - look up at the clouds, smell the grass, snow
or rain and feel the fresh air on your skin.
4) Run up and down your stairs or do some jumping
jacks or push-ups for 10 minutes. Explore how
getting out of your mind and into your body helps
you to feel both calm and energized.
5) Watch a funny movie or read a funny book.
Laughter provides perspective and makes everything
feel more manageable.
Spend a week trying these exercises and then look
What do you notice? What are you learning? What
is possible from here?
Write down what you learned or share it with your
The next time you're feeling overwhelmed, try letting
go of your expectations and measuring your
accomplishments. Instead, focus on slowing down
and re-connecting with what energizes and feeds
you. When you're connected with your values and
the guiding principles of your life, you're connected
to the natural fuel for getting things done.
Amber Rosenberg is a professional life coach who
working mothers manage their guilt and stress
and re-define success on their own terms. After 12
years struggling to create her own
work/life balance in the corporate and non-profit
worlds, she is
passionate about helping women actively choose how
want to spend their time. A popular speaker and
interviewed for national print, TV and radio media
Amber co-authored the book Inspiration to
with a chapter on "How to Manage Your Love/Hate
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"Before working with Amber, I felt like I
constantly playing catch-up at home and at
work. I was
stressed out and exhausted and felt like I
enough of myself to give. Through coaching, I've
learned how to re-define my roles of mother,
and wife and am enjoying what it feels like
- Jessica Montel, director of marketing,
"Amber's coaching has helped me to feel more
in control of my time. I learned to focus on
the things I
absolutely have to do and how to say "no" or
for everything else. I'm getting more done in
and am able to spend more quality time with my
- Layla Adams, sales executive,
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